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How To Get Out of A Toxic Relationship


A great relationship can elevate your life. A bad relationship can make you feel so low. A great relationship can fill you with joy. A bad relationship can rip your heart leaving you feeling confused, sad even guilt ridden and more. Toxic relationships can be so destructive and yet for some it’s so hard to leave.


What Is a Toxic Relationship? How To Recognize Your In One 


To over simplify a toxic relationship is a harmful relationship. But you need to know there are all kinds of toxic relationships. Lover, Co-worker, Boss, Neighbor even Family member or so-called friend.

Some of the signs that a relationship is toxic are easily detected:

  • Physical abuse, repeated infidelity, and inappropriate sexual behavior, violence, threats.

Other signs are less easily recognized:

  • Disrespectful, dishonest, or controlling behavior, unkind words that cut you down consistently. .

If you’re experiencing any type of abuse, know that you don’t deserve to live that way……. and reach out for support immediately.

If you or a loved one are a victim of domestic violence, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 for confidential assistance from trained advocates.

How To Get Out of A Toxic Relationship



Ending a bad relationship can be really complicated. Here are some things you can do to make the process easier:


Seek help: People in toxic relationships need help from friends, family, and professionals to commit to change.

Let someone know:  No more secrets. Confide in a family member or friend so that they can help you with the process. If you feel threatened, inform the local authorities that you are going to need help.

Seek supportive people:  Leaving and recovering from a toxic relationship will take effort and time. Reach out to support groups or counselors who are experienced in relationship issues.  An experienced family law attorney is also necessary if you’re leaving a marriage.

Build a safety net: If you’re thinking of leaving and ending the relationship, make a plan for how you are going to deal with the transition. Where will you stay? A women’s shelter, a friends home? What possessions will you need to bring along?  This process should be well thought out.

Express how you feel to this person:  Start sharing your personal emotions. For example, “I feel very sad or angry, when I hear you say…” This way you can discover if the relationship is worth working on and saving.

Make a decision: If you determine the relationship is worth saving get into counseling. If you determine you need to end the relationship do it.


Surround yourself with positivity:  Spend time with people who make you feel good, treat yourself to your favorite meal, go to church, spend time outside, or do whatever brings you joy. Going through a tough time in a relationship can cause incalculable stress: It’s important to try to replace all the negative with positive.

Stick with your decision: Often after leaving someone, you begin to miss the person.  So remember that you came to this decision after a long, thoughtful process. Stick to your decision and remember that it was made to better you and your life.


Not only is being in a toxic relationship extremely hard, but you also might even feel trapped in it. You deserve to be happy. Leaving an unhealthy and toxic relationship is a tremendously difficult and brave step to take, but you can do it.


If you or somebody you know needs help for emotional or physical abuse, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or visit


Ric Bender host of Life With A Why on YouTube

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